India

Writing on one’s own country can be easy also and at the same time a tough task. India a land of unity in diversity, a country of rich tradition, culture and inventions and great people. It is a vast country wherein various nations of different beliefs are bundled together to give a definite shape. Perhaps it is the only country in the world which has assimilated so many contradicting beliefs, religions and traditions in one rope.
In today’s world where casteism has taken a ugly shape imagining a country like India is really a whim.
Every country in this world has got its own beliefs and they hardly can accept the beliefs of other people. But in our country every one has got right to practice its religion in the way it wants. We have got largest number of temple of crores of Gods and Goddesses.
Still we respect each other and accept as they are. But then for how long will it be possible. We can see some faction demanding their separate state; we have already witnessed some pie added to the already existing cake. We have also seen various cities have got their name change. We have seen political parties emphasizing on their culture people, language and values. Some where people have started keeping the state and the religion before national interest and jeopardizing the unity of the country.
This is not the only challenge affecting our country. There are various other challenges which can dealt a great blow to the country’s existence. These are-
Terrorism- there is nothing to be said on this
Politics and its dark side- we have largest number of political parties which are more of a religious faction then a national party. The fight just to fulfill their mean interest without giving damn to the nation.
Our values- yes somehow and somewhere our values are also affecting us. We are too compromising, people blessed with weak memories when it comes to remembering the blows dealt on us by the foreigners. Whenever some incidence of terror attack happens we just forget everything the very next day. All these things are taken for granted.
Internal conflicts, internal act of terrorism
Lack of education and lack of sense of responsibility for own country and the list goes on.
I am not criticizing India as man people do. Infact I consider myself blessed to be born in this country but then we have to leverage upon this blessing and fight against various evils afflicting our country

Boys Vs. Girls

One of the most controversial topics. Right from early childhood we can find males and females fighting over this and trying to prove their superiority knowing very well that o on will come out as a winner. And infact no one is superior to other. Both are unique having particular behavioral aspect that separates the two. But for a successful living actually both of these behavioral aspects are needed.
Lets take women first (Ladies first concept)!!!! Women are more emotional, less logical, emotionally stronger than man and very creative. They are more flexible easily adaptable to any situation and are also good crisis manager. They are less demanding, more childish, understanding, good listener and so on.
To highlight a few negative aspect then- they are too emotional to handle this emotions. In the gush of emotions they don’t logically weigh the situation and may take hasty decisions which they at times regret later. Also they are very impatient and can get hyper even in those situations which can be handled peacefully. Undoubtedly, they are good at maneuvering, scheming and can change the face of the situation in a subtle manner. They know how to leverage a particular situation better than guys.

and ofcourse the biggest strength and weakness is their tears
As far as guys are concerned they are no doubt logical, business oriented, focused and ofcourse less creative. They are in the better grasp of the situation which needs to be handled with patience and logic and do not get carried away by emotions. They ofcourse don’t understand subtle emotions which they call as small-small useless stuff. They don’t have much ego issues and can prove as a better friend only if they know how to maintain the relations. They are good at taking care only if they know how to show it.
But then they are highly stubborn and this stubbornness of their can injure great relations. They don’t give a damn to emotional aspect which at times is necessary. And ofcourse they are more insecure and suspecting when it comes to relations. They value everything in terms of money.
But ofcourse then both are needed to run the family, society and this is world.
World cannot be imagined in the absence of one.

Birds !!!

I love seeing the birds flying high in the sky with virtually no restrictions, no fear and no bondage. Daily sitting in my office I see a group of pigeons take long flight together making loud sound, atleast twice a day. I love watching them flocking together in the group and see the camaraderie between them. Ofcourse I am not an ornithologist to understand this aspect of birds (but I would like to know if someone can tell me).
What I imagine is that I also want to be one of them flying high in the sky, without caring for anything or anyone, deep in own thoughts and masti.
Really if we want to learn then the animals and birds have lot to teach us.
They are free from any bondage. They don’t carry any emotions, grudges or ill feelings. They are all independent and blah, blah and blah.
But ya then they do not have family system like us, they don’t fall into emotional traps which at times may be good and they don’t have mind to perceive so many things.
I am thankful to God to grant me this life but still I would like to fly high in the sky like a bird away from this material world.

Movie 2012

I am not a movie critique, but then there are few movies which inspires/force you to write about it something.
Movie 2012 is a theme based movie, with good animations to be watched on a big screen ofcourse and not devoid of various stupidities like catching the flight while running, escaping danger every time, to name a few.

However what touched me the most is the underlying theme of this movie which is- “live your life as if it is your last day”.
This movie touches on basic emotion of human beings- the love for each other. We love our family, relatives and friends. This movie reminds us that today in this fast paced world we have not just got away from them physically but even emotionally. We hold onto grudges for long and don’t forgive our kith and kin-which is actually bad. But we fail to realize that we have just one precious life which is very uncertain and we may not know when the person we love go away from us. We will not get the time to communicate our feelings, to say the person how much we love him/her, to ask sorry and say thank you.
Hence this movie is a good reminder to forget the past, start a new beginning every day and express our emotions atleast to the people who value them.

Thanks to Orkut

Friendship is one such topic, on which one can write anything in length and anytime. It’s a blessing in disguise, a precious gift and for some a river of sorrow. But one thing is for sure it is like a rainbow, full of colors and when it is there in your life, your life is worth it.

But how about when your friend goes away from you for any reason- may be change in the location, job, college or school or any other reason. I know its pretty sad.

And then one fine day you either receive a surprise mail, call or just a scrap on your orkut. How do you feel??? Surprised!!!! Happy!!!! Don’t know how to respond!!!

Similar was my state on Saturday November 7^th 2009 when I received a scrap from my old school friend. She was not in contact with anyone as such right after tenth std. as she moved to Mumbai. Just a few days back I was remembering her, the precious phone call from her when I was in tenth std. regarding change in exam schedule and simply everything. And now today I received a scrap from her. I was indeed flabbergasted, not know for a moment what to do, how to respond, what to scrap her and is this a reality. But ofcourse this was a great moment of my life. Same day I saw scrap from one more school friend with whom I was not in contact after leaving school. Its really great when your old friends come in your life.

Thanks to orkut and other net-gifts that help us finding our old friends and be friend to them.

Similarly I received mail from one of my friend and I am still in soup as I am not able to recognize this friend of mine. This is pretty sad but I will recognize her very soon.

No doubt, net- surfing is good.

Vulgar competition

I guess this is the most befitting term for the competition that is witnessed by various players in the market today. Major industries are telecom, communication and retail.

To attract customers and to prevent churn rate the companies are on a price war.

To justify lets take example of telecom industry. More and more players are coming into the ever-growing market with varied schemes to attract more and more customers. Schemes like STD @ 50.ps, pay per call, pay 1 ps. and talk unlimited are deluging in the market.

Then there are schemes going in retail segment also. Like the past decade witnessed the tough competition between cola companies. Various FMCG companies, apparel industry are also witnessing this cut-throat competition.

No doubt the customer is at an advantage as he gets the bargaining power and a wider basket of goods to choose from. But, till what point of time?

At some point the balance has to come and market will see the saturation.

One more question comes to my mind is that are customers paying some indirect cost may be in form of hazard to environment, inter-generational equity or any other hidden cost which will show its face in future.

How about companies, there profitability, effects on shareholders, employees and various other stake holders? Are they not into loss?

All these questions need to be answered. No doubt, competition is healthy, but excess of it is not ripe for the market. There should be proper regulatory framework to address unnecessary competition in the market and make it a fair play.

Learnings

We all might have read a great many quotes. Mails are abounded with the stuff on positive quotes. At times its seems good to read this quotes, but then there are the times when our life is a damn hell and we feel what the fuck this quotes are and they are just good in preaching but not in practice. Very true!!!

Only we can understand our problems, how gigantic are they and we only know how difficult it is to come out of them. And you can always find every second individual crying on his/her fate. We keep cribbing on various things. And the only reason for this to happen is that we forget our core values along with others, our very purpose of life. We just know that small-small problems takes the shape of big problems, but we don’t know that small-small blessings also add to one big blessing. We forget to delite ourselves from small-small things.

Just have a look and you will find-

That the world is really beautiful. There is Mother Nature to enjoy with; there are atleast few friends in our life who are angels on this earth for us. These friends might be far away from us but then they are somewhere in this world praying for us. We have relatives, siblings and above all our parents.

When we have so many blessings then why do we cry for small-small things that are actually insignificant and beyond our control. I know these words are easy said then done. I also know that when someone else is in problem it is quite easy to assuage that other person. We may give wonderful sermons and allay fear of other person. But when the things come on us, we forget everything. Then we want someone else to remind us these wonderful words.

But then there can be times when we are all alone and at that time we should count small-small blessings of our life and increase our joy and not pain.

Worldof my dreams

I close my eyes to see-

The birds flying high

The waves swirling high

And the kids playing sci-fi

I close my eyes to hear-

The chirping of birds

The roaring sound of waves

And the twitter of children

The world is so beautiful

Full of love and happiness

Full of peace and freedom

Far away from hatred and violence

But then I open my eyes to find-

Birds no more flying

Waves no more swirling

And Children no more playing

What I find is a world-

Full of hatred and malice

In the grip of terror and cries

Forcing you to move with fright

Hence I pray the almighty

To peep into the world

And to set the things in order

Or let my eyes close forever.

Where are you???

You came as a stranger in my life
Became integral part of my life
You walked away from my life
Leaving indefatigable scars in my life

My eyes keep on searching for you
My heart still sings the songs for you
And it keeps on asking a question-
To me- why did you leave me far behind?

Whose fault was it?
Or the time was not ripe for it?
Did I fail to understand you?
Or you took me on a ride all the while?

Alas! There’s no more time-
To question or answer;
To crib and to blame
Or to cry over the fate


Now is the time
To take a decision
To wipe the tears
And to forgive and forget

Learning from life away from home

As a child I always had a dream to live in the hostel far away from home and experience what this life is like; which is praised by many but at the same time also criticized by many. I am living this dream in reality for past 2.5 years. No doubt, this life has got both pros and cons.

00.0- The life in the hostel starts with B’Day bashes, cakes, hullagulla and dance and masti.

01.00- After enjoying cake comes time for movie and IP bakar. This continues till morning 03.00 o’ clock and then perhaps it is the time to sleep.

08.00- alarm continues to ring. Get up, hurry to get ready for class.

17.00- if there are no classes then this is the sleeping time.

21.00- dinner time

23.30- time to get to the rooms after a long blissful walk and ghumofying with friends.

This was typical hostel life at Nirma. But now after getting into the job this life has taken a shift. Now no late B’Day bashes, no IP bakar and hence no late night parties.

Now almost everyone goes to bed in so called right time and also gets up at right time.

But then there are few things that have not changed and this are learning derived from this life.

No doubt the life @ hostel is full of fun and freedom. There are virtually no restrictions and you can do whatever you want to do. No one to guide you, no one to keep a check on each activity of yours, no one to peep in your cupboard, or your precious private diary or no one to eavesdrop on your long distance call.

But then there are times when you miss your home, your old buddies, food prepared by your mom, the hide and seek you played with your things to hide them from your siblings and the list continues.

But when the freedom comes it comes bundled with responsibilities. If you are financially independent then you have to also manage your own finances so that you don’t fall short of it.

If you there is no supervision on you, you have to be supervisor of your values and be careful that you don’t go astray.

At times when you feel sad and lonely, you have to be with yourself. You know that you simply can’t keep on whining and call your home for petty issues. Hence you have to maintain you calm and blithe.

Right from small-small issues to big issues you have to take a call all alone.

Hence, the life which at portico seems to be really heaven is not so from inside.

Many of friends are too eager to leave their home and experience hostel life. Indisputably, everyone should live such life atleast once in their life time. It teaches a lot and experience learnt here becomes life time learning.

In nutshell, to me 3H- Hostel, Heaven and Hell sounds synonym.

Old friend Vs. New Friend

“Make new friends,

But do not forget the old

As new may be silver

But old is gold”.

These are few lines many of us might have heart of before, especially through sms or on friendship day. Well how relevant are these lines I really don’t know. Because we keep on making new friends at every new step of life. When we leave school we make new friends in college and our contact gets lessened with the school friends, still moving on we go on making new and more and more friends. Sometimes we think that this new friends are our real true friends. We thank God for giving such good friends. But then a point comes in our life when we start missing our old friends, those old mastis and their sweet talks.

I don’t buy the above mentioned lines because then one more sms comes to my mind-

“Friendship is not about who came first, whom you have known the longest or who cares the best… its all about who came and never left”.

For me friendship is something a feeling, a matter of intuition. If I feel that the person can be a good friend of mine then I extend the contact else I don’t. This had assumed great significance particularly in recent times when I am in process of making various new friends. In some cases old contacts are getting revived up and in some cases new friends are getting in touch may be due to any reason.

But then you have also to decide are you really in need of this new friendship. I mean will you be able to handle this new friendship. In this fast moving world, which is a complex maze, will you have time and moreover patience to handle all your friends. It is very difficult.

Well the definition of the friendship differs greatly and hence I will not say much. Hence I end this topic abruptly.

Run Away......

Run away…
My heart says- run away;
To the place- Where you find peace
To the people- Who are your own
To the home- Which is yours
And to the world- Which is filled with love.

Run away-
My heart says- run away;
These are not your people
This place is not worth living
And this is not the life you dreamt of.

Then what are you waiting for?
What are you looking for?
Are these agonies not sufficient to run away from?
My heart says- run away dear, run away!!!

Childhood :-)

If someone asked me the most perfect age to live and cherish and the age I would like to visit once again, if given a chance, then I would say – “CHILDHOOD”.
Yes, according to me this is the most exciting age when you enjoy yourself to the fullest. Some of you may not agree, but let me explain.
I know as a child theoretically there is no freedom, no choice, every time we have to listen to our elders, we are not decision makers. Someone else makes decision for us and those decisions are forced on us. We are not choosers in any case. But hey wait. Have you thought of the numerous benefits of this age that is the period from age of 3-7 years, when we are at a tender age.
Though there are restrictions of all sorts on us but we are a free bird from our mind. There’s no ill-will in our mind, it is free from clad of emotions of all sorts. We do not know what is right and what is wrong, who is right and who is wrong. We simply do not know the language of emotions like love, hatred, anger, lust and discrimination. We are simply involved with ourselves, in our own world which is full of play, fun and no tensions.
No tension of schooling as such, of job, of family and all sorts of responsibilities. We even don’t care as to what is going on in the world around us. We are above nitty-gritty of life and everyone loves us.
I guess this is the most perfect age to enjoy, to cherish and simply to live.
But the sad thing is that we understand this only when we grow up.

HOLLYWOOD Vs. BOLLYWOOD

Many of us fond of movies. Some of them are such movie freak that they watch all movies that are released on every Friday in cinemas. For them the type of movie, the cast, the performers are immaterial. I really doubt how can someone watch all kind of movies especially when I am not a movie freak.
Infact before joining Nirma I rarely used to watch movies, but hostel life, IP messenger and availability of various movies teaches you how to watch movies. I have quite a good number of movies especially English movies after joining Nirma.
After watching Hollywood movies I can say that they are better than our so called Bollywood movies. And the reason why am I saying so is because they touch emotions in a much subtle way. Whether it is action movie, or comedy stuff, or romantic movie; the emotions are depicted in a better way than our Bollywood movies. The concept is also a bit different and all the movies I watched had a different underlying theme. Further they are comparatively of short duration. Hence, I like Hollywood movies now more than Bollywood movies. Even performance of many actors and songs are much better.

This should not suggest that I am a critique of Hindi movies; I like them also and watch them. But now-a-days there is a dearth of good movies, good themes in Indian movies.
Waiting for some big blockbuster to come.
Hope it comes soon.

Job Life!!!

The life after college when you step into the real world, standing on your own feet (I mean definitely when you start earning) can be so thrilling and tempting. You are into different planet at times just at the thought of “Glamorous Corporate World”, “Hefty Pays-scale”, new locations, new friends and so on.
But at the same time you may be also gloomy at the thought of leaving your alma mater, your old friends, end of college life (a life of masti, dhoom and no real world tensions), leaving your native place or your family and so on.
However after stepping into this real world you realize the sheer glamour, which might be a mask for some, simply dabbed with glittering powder and mask. Though the real world is not bad, after and all it gives you the opportunity to come to face to face with the cruel realities of the world.
Some are people are too happy with their work, while others are not. Reasons may be many like higher expectations in terms of work profile, salary, location and work culture not to forget. Some people seem to be too happy with their job however it might be. This may be because either they don’t have high expectations or many of them have lost the hope of a better job prospect coming their way. Some are happy because their job is actually worth it.
While many I have seen are not happy with their job and I found them cribbing them for reasons I mentioned above. If the current scenario is taken into consideration then getting a desirable job is a challenging job in itself.
In some case it’s not the job that becomes a cause of misery but other disturbing things happening in their life ranging from some daily home issues to breaking of first love or whatever. In this case even if the job is lucrative the person is not able to take the full advantage of the situation. And in some case when the above situation ties a knot with the so called- bad job; the situation perhaps can’t be described in words.

Hence many people life becomes- “as usual” once they start working; i.e. whenever you ask them- “what’s going on”, they will reply sheepishly- “as usual”. Even many of friends I guess are under same situation.

But however it may be, it is also a part of the life and must be enjoyed. I guess some research can be done as to- how to make job life more interesting?
Though my job life is good but ofcourse I would also like to know the answer to the above mentioned question.
So anyone with any suggestion please suggest them.

Expressing Oneself!!!

Has anyone thought upon the power of language, power of words- the enormous power through which you can express your emotions, your feelings and feel free from the trap of all emotions?
But even if we know about his power do we rightly use this power?
I guess no!!!

We actually don’t make the right use of facilities given to us especially if there are no restrictions on them.
Many people are extra-extrovert while many of them are intensely-introvert. Some are so extrovert that they just don’t know how much to say and some are so introvert that they even don’t reveal important information which is their duty to reveal. I guess both are truly irritating, atleast I found so.

Many people don’t know how to express their feelings, when, where and to what extent.
One such emotion when people usually lose control over their tongue is when they are extremely angry. At this time they just don’t know that- “everyone can become angry, it’s easy. But to become angry to the right extent, on the right person and for the right reason is not easy for all”.

Similarly there are cases of extreme emotions when people loose control over themselves and outburst all their feelings. Many a times it is because they had enough of it in their heart. And now the swarm of feelings wants to gush out of their heart. This is usually considered to be a very dangerous situation but people are usually trapped into this. And it is indeed a very difficult situation when people just don’t know how to fight with the situation.
Hence, both the cases i.e. when people express themselves much or don’t express at all are complex. But then where does the balance lies.
How to find the situations when you don’t know how to react to the things happening around you? Who can be trusted? Whom to approach in times of emotional turbulence?
Further, what are other ways of expressing your deep seated emotions without speaking to anyone?
All these are big questions perhaps without any answer.