Learning from life away from home

As a child I always had a dream to live in the hostel far away from home and experience what this life is like; which is praised by many but at the same time also criticized by many. I am living this dream in reality for past 2.5 years. No doubt, this life has got both pros and cons.

00.0- The life in the hostel starts with B’Day bashes, cakes, hullagulla and dance and masti.

01.00- After enjoying cake comes time for movie and IP bakar. This continues till morning 03.00 o’ clock and then perhaps it is the time to sleep.

08.00- alarm continues to ring. Get up, hurry to get ready for class.

17.00- if there are no classes then this is the sleeping time.

21.00- dinner time

23.30- time to get to the rooms after a long blissful walk and ghumofying with friends.

This was typical hostel life at Nirma. But now after getting into the job this life has taken a shift. Now no late B’Day bashes, no IP bakar and hence no late night parties.

Now almost everyone goes to bed in so called right time and also gets up at right time.

But then there are few things that have not changed and this are learning derived from this life.

No doubt the life @ hostel is full of fun and freedom. There are virtually no restrictions and you can do whatever you want to do. No one to guide you, no one to keep a check on each activity of yours, no one to peep in your cupboard, or your precious private diary or no one to eavesdrop on your long distance call.

But then there are times when you miss your home, your old buddies, food prepared by your mom, the hide and seek you played with your things to hide them from your siblings and the list continues.

But when the freedom comes it comes bundled with responsibilities. If you are financially independent then you have to also manage your own finances so that you don’t fall short of it.

If you there is no supervision on you, you have to be supervisor of your values and be careful that you don’t go astray.

At times when you feel sad and lonely, you have to be with yourself. You know that you simply can’t keep on whining and call your home for petty issues. Hence you have to maintain you calm and blithe.

Right from small-small issues to big issues you have to take a call all alone.

Hence, the life which at portico seems to be really heaven is not so from inside.

Many of friends are too eager to leave their home and experience hostel life. Indisputably, everyone should live such life atleast once in their life time. It teaches a lot and experience learnt here becomes life time learning.

In nutshell, to me 3H- Hostel, Heaven and Hell sounds synonym.

Old friend Vs. New Friend

“Make new friends,

But do not forget the old

As new may be silver

But old is gold”.

These are few lines many of us might have heart of before, especially through sms or on friendship day. Well how relevant are these lines I really don’t know. Because we keep on making new friends at every new step of life. When we leave school we make new friends in college and our contact gets lessened with the school friends, still moving on we go on making new and more and more friends. Sometimes we think that this new friends are our real true friends. We thank God for giving such good friends. But then a point comes in our life when we start missing our old friends, those old mastis and their sweet talks.

I don’t buy the above mentioned lines because then one more sms comes to my mind-

“Friendship is not about who came first, whom you have known the longest or who cares the best… its all about who came and never left”.

For me friendship is something a feeling, a matter of intuition. If I feel that the person can be a good friend of mine then I extend the contact else I don’t. This had assumed great significance particularly in recent times when I am in process of making various new friends. In some cases old contacts are getting revived up and in some cases new friends are getting in touch may be due to any reason.

But then you have also to decide are you really in need of this new friendship. I mean will you be able to handle this new friendship. In this fast moving world, which is a complex maze, will you have time and moreover patience to handle all your friends. It is very difficult.

Well the definition of the friendship differs greatly and hence I will not say much. Hence I end this topic abruptly.

Run Away......

Run away…
My heart says- run away;
To the place- Where you find peace
To the people- Who are your own
To the home- Which is yours
And to the world- Which is filled with love.

Run away-
My heart says- run away;
These are not your people
This place is not worth living
And this is not the life you dreamt of.

Then what are you waiting for?
What are you looking for?
Are these agonies not sufficient to run away from?
My heart says- run away dear, run away!!!

Childhood :-)

If someone asked me the most perfect age to live and cherish and the age I would like to visit once again, if given a chance, then I would say – “CHILDHOOD”.
Yes, according to me this is the most exciting age when you enjoy yourself to the fullest. Some of you may not agree, but let me explain.
I know as a child theoretically there is no freedom, no choice, every time we have to listen to our elders, we are not decision makers. Someone else makes decision for us and those decisions are forced on us. We are not choosers in any case. But hey wait. Have you thought of the numerous benefits of this age that is the period from age of 3-7 years, when we are at a tender age.
Though there are restrictions of all sorts on us but we are a free bird from our mind. There’s no ill-will in our mind, it is free from clad of emotions of all sorts. We do not know what is right and what is wrong, who is right and who is wrong. We simply do not know the language of emotions like love, hatred, anger, lust and discrimination. We are simply involved with ourselves, in our own world which is full of play, fun and no tensions.
No tension of schooling as such, of job, of family and all sorts of responsibilities. We even don’t care as to what is going on in the world around us. We are above nitty-gritty of life and everyone loves us.
I guess this is the most perfect age to enjoy, to cherish and simply to live.
But the sad thing is that we understand this only when we grow up.

HOLLYWOOD Vs. BOLLYWOOD

Many of us fond of movies. Some of them are such movie freak that they watch all movies that are released on every Friday in cinemas. For them the type of movie, the cast, the performers are immaterial. I really doubt how can someone watch all kind of movies especially when I am not a movie freak.
Infact before joining Nirma I rarely used to watch movies, but hostel life, IP messenger and availability of various movies teaches you how to watch movies. I have quite a good number of movies especially English movies after joining Nirma.
After watching Hollywood movies I can say that they are better than our so called Bollywood movies. And the reason why am I saying so is because they touch emotions in a much subtle way. Whether it is action movie, or comedy stuff, or romantic movie; the emotions are depicted in a better way than our Bollywood movies. The concept is also a bit different and all the movies I watched had a different underlying theme. Further they are comparatively of short duration. Hence, I like Hollywood movies now more than Bollywood movies. Even performance of many actors and songs are much better.

This should not suggest that I am a critique of Hindi movies; I like them also and watch them. But now-a-days there is a dearth of good movies, good themes in Indian movies.
Waiting for some big blockbuster to come.
Hope it comes soon.

Job Life!!!

The life after college when you step into the real world, standing on your own feet (I mean definitely when you start earning) can be so thrilling and tempting. You are into different planet at times just at the thought of “Glamorous Corporate World”, “Hefty Pays-scale”, new locations, new friends and so on.
But at the same time you may be also gloomy at the thought of leaving your alma mater, your old friends, end of college life (a life of masti, dhoom and no real world tensions), leaving your native place or your family and so on.
However after stepping into this real world you realize the sheer glamour, which might be a mask for some, simply dabbed with glittering powder and mask. Though the real world is not bad, after and all it gives you the opportunity to come to face to face with the cruel realities of the world.
Some are people are too happy with their work, while others are not. Reasons may be many like higher expectations in terms of work profile, salary, location and work culture not to forget. Some people seem to be too happy with their job however it might be. This may be because either they don’t have high expectations or many of them have lost the hope of a better job prospect coming their way. Some are happy because their job is actually worth it.
While many I have seen are not happy with their job and I found them cribbing them for reasons I mentioned above. If the current scenario is taken into consideration then getting a desirable job is a challenging job in itself.
In some case it’s not the job that becomes a cause of misery but other disturbing things happening in their life ranging from some daily home issues to breaking of first love or whatever. In this case even if the job is lucrative the person is not able to take the full advantage of the situation. And in some case when the above situation ties a knot with the so called- bad job; the situation perhaps can’t be described in words.

Hence many people life becomes- “as usual” once they start working; i.e. whenever you ask them- “what’s going on”, they will reply sheepishly- “as usual”. Even many of friends I guess are under same situation.

But however it may be, it is also a part of the life and must be enjoyed. I guess some research can be done as to- how to make job life more interesting?
Though my job life is good but ofcourse I would also like to know the answer to the above mentioned question.
So anyone with any suggestion please suggest them.

Expressing Oneself!!!

Has anyone thought upon the power of language, power of words- the enormous power through which you can express your emotions, your feelings and feel free from the trap of all emotions?
But even if we know about his power do we rightly use this power?
I guess no!!!

We actually don’t make the right use of facilities given to us especially if there are no restrictions on them.
Many people are extra-extrovert while many of them are intensely-introvert. Some are so extrovert that they just don’t know how much to say and some are so introvert that they even don’t reveal important information which is their duty to reveal. I guess both are truly irritating, atleast I found so.

Many people don’t know how to express their feelings, when, where and to what extent.
One such emotion when people usually lose control over their tongue is when they are extremely angry. At this time they just don’t know that- “everyone can become angry, it’s easy. But to become angry to the right extent, on the right person and for the right reason is not easy for all”.

Similarly there are cases of extreme emotions when people loose control over themselves and outburst all their feelings. Many a times it is because they had enough of it in their heart. And now the swarm of feelings wants to gush out of their heart. This is usually considered to be a very dangerous situation but people are usually trapped into this. And it is indeed a very difficult situation when people just don’t know how to fight with the situation.
Hence, both the cases i.e. when people express themselves much or don’t express at all are complex. But then where does the balance lies.
How to find the situations when you don’t know how to react to the things happening around you? Who can be trusted? Whom to approach in times of emotional turbulence?
Further, what are other ways of expressing your deep seated emotions without speaking to anyone?
All these are big questions perhaps without any answer.